1. Speaking less is Wisdom
When we often advise and mention that one needs to speak less it does not mean the person needs to stop socializing and avoid gathering. We are asked to speak of what’s right and true and avoid excessive talk which does not benefit us in anyway. Excessive talks includes alot of gossiping, where you can easily find in several gatherings and try avoiding it and these gossips mainly consist of backbiting and speaking ill of his/her brother and sister and that ruins and sets an individual’s mind in such a manner that it starts viewing him/her as evil and bad, these backbiting destroys a person’s character, the present and future when in reality it does not match anything and is untrue with what has been said about.
There has been several Hadiths mentioned under the Book of the Prohibited actions that includes backbiting about his/her brother which are untrue.
وعن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: “أتدرون ما الغيبة؟” قالوا: الله ورسوله أعلم قال: ”ذكرك أخاك بما يكره” قيل: أفرأيت إن كان في أخي ما أقول؟ قال: ”إن كان فيه ما تقول، فقد اغتبته، وإن لم يكن فيه ما تقول فقد بهته”.((رواه مسلم)).
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) said:The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Do you know what is backbiting?” The Companions said: “Allah and His Messenger know better.” Thereupon he said, “Backbiting is talking about your (Muslim) brother in a manner which he dislikes.” It was said to him: “What if my (Muslim) brother is as I say.” He said, “If he is actually as you say, then that is backbiting; but if that is not in him, that is slandering.”
2. Eating less is Healthy
Eating less and maintaining one’s diet is taught to us since a young age. One does not have to be excessive related to everything, be it speaking, eating, sleeping and socializing.
حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ، عَنْ عَدِيِّ بْنِ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ رَجُلاً، كَانَ يَأْكُلُ أَكْلاً كَثِيرًا، فَأَسْلَمَ فَكَانَ يَأْكُلُ أَكْلاً قَلِيلاً، فَذُكِرَ ذَلِكَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَقَالَ “ إِنَّ الْمُؤْمِنَ يَأْكُلُ فِي مِعًى وَاحِدٍ، وَالْكَافِرَ يَأْكُلُ فِي سَبْعَةِ أَمْعَاءٍ ”.
Narrated Abu Huraira:
A man used to eat much, but when he embraced Islam, he started eating less. That was mentioned to the Prophet (ﷺ) who then said, “A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with a little food) and a Kafir eats in seven intestines (eats much).
Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5397
In-book reference : Book 70, Hadith 25
USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 7, Book 65, Hadith 309
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3. Sleeping less is Worship
Excessive sleep makes oneself lazy to do his/her routine work. Sleeping less and early has many benefits.
4. Socializing less is the recipe for Safety
Today’s youth are so much into socializing and competing with each other in every matter and field. We are encouraged to socialize or else we aren’t considered a part of the so called “society standards.” The best reason one needs to avoid socializing more is because it may effect an individual’s relation and one needs to avoid evil and jealousy while praising or sharing about one’s success with others. Be it personal life, education or work, an individual need not speak excessive about one’s matter with others as it may affect minor or severely due to evil eyes and jealousy. Socializing less saves one’s privacy and protects from evil and jealousy around.
People have alot to share and socialize about, but be very careful whom who share your Joy and sorrows with, the way they express in goodness and respect will reflect and protect one’s shared news.
As mentioned in the hadiths under The Book of the Prohibited actions (At-Tirmidhi)
وعن ابن عمر رضي الله عنهما قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: “لا تكثروا الكلام بغير ذكر الله، فإن كثرة الكلام بغير ذكر الله تعالى قسوة للقلب! وإن أبعد الناس من الله القلب القاسي”. رواه الترمذي.
Ibn ‘Umar (May Allah be pleased with them) reported:The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “Do not indulge in excessive talk except when remembering Allah. Excessive talking without the Remembrance of Allah hardens the heart; and those who are the farthest from Allah are those whose hearts are hard.”
To all the readers, avoid speaking less and reflect on what you say about yourself and specially others.